Nancy Pelosi’s Father Hunger

Pelosi and Trump haven’t spoken for months, since he called her “a third-rate politician”. That’s one part of why she tore up the SOTU address last night. But she went into the event willing to go through with the formalities of the address in a way respectful of Trump, even though all his words and actions, and those in particular, have been grinding away inside her since then.



It might seem strange, but Trump, in his behavior as president, and even to Pelosi, is Dad. What she wants most of all, even in the midst of all the other garbage of Washington, is Dad’s approval. But not only is he not giving it, he’s been giving harsh criticism of her. And he’s doing it because he’s serious about the business at hand. Sure, his ego is in play. It always is. But despite what some think, he really is in the business of making American lives better. He recognized the mess we were in, and as opposed to most politicians, he wasn’t going to be about playing games. His goal was going to be about fixing the problems. If there’s one thing he hates, it’s the games of the Swamp that are always about benefitting themselves and doing no real good.

So Dad stepped in when he became president, made his authority known, and has been acting on it.



Pelosi is many things, but she is first of all a woman. She has already been frustrated repeatedly on many fronts by him. But she still approaches Washington like a game, one where she can fight Dad and insult him, she hopes, and still be approved of by him. But he’s not having it.



Not only is he not giving her any sort of relationship, or communication, or approval. To bring the whole thing to a head, he shamed her in front of all of her peers, and in fact, the whole world, when he refused to shake her hand. And she took it personally. So she was determined from that moment on to find a way to get back at him.

So as crazy as it might sound, the whole thing is about a woman with a serious case of father hunger. It isn’t first of all about politics for her. She’s a woman, and it’s about relationship and approval.